When I first embarked on my journey of personal growth over 15 years ago, I remember someone saying to me “just think positive, change your belief about yourself” and at the time, I really couldn’t fathom changing my thoughts, it felt impossible. How could I go from thinking I was the ugliest human being on the planet to looking at myself in the mirror and believing that I was beautiful. This really did not make sense to me as it was so far away from the truth. I tried affirmations over and over again and although they helped, I never truly believed it deep in my core. I needed something that went a little deeper and helped me really own these traits.
Here is an amazing bunch of questions that will take you through the steps to owning the light you think you are not:
First, say to yourself, I am willing to feel __(choose a quality)__ (ie. valuable, beautiful, smart)
Look for times in your life where you have demonstrated this trait and felt this way.
How does believing yourself not to be this serve you? (ie. does it keep you safe, does it make you right, does it give you an excuse, etc.)
By believing that you are not this, how is your life affected? What are you missing out on?
What are you afraid of finding out if you start to believe that you are _______________?
If you decided to own this trait and believe this to be true of yourself, what would open up for you, what would be available to you?
What is one action that you can take this week to begin owning this quality in yourself?
Choose a statement of self-love that owns this trait (ie. I am beautiful, I am courageous, I am valuable) and repeat it over and over to yourself all week long, every hour if possible, write it stickies and put them around your home, your car, your computer etc.
Watch your self-confidence heighten and your world open up!
Have fun!
In the spirit of owning your big bright light,
Jenn xx
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I remember doing this exercise in one of your group a few years ago. We had to pick the adjective that we thought was not true and repeat it out loud to the group until we could start believing it.
At the time, I chose “I am sexy.” I did NOT believe I could be sexy at all! The word itself almost disgusted me. It almost felt like a lie to say it out loud like that.
Fast forward a few years later, a desire to change and be more positive, a few dating experience that even though they turned bad… it all made me realize that, you know what? I AM sexy!
I can truly say it out loud and believe it now. It’s wonderful what can happen when you change to be more positive!
Love it Julie!!! YOU ARE SEXY!
xx